I was told by many online and in-person that this film would break me, especially if you related to the story being told. Two years ago around this time, I experienced the most painful breakup I had ever felt in my life. Me and my ex had permanently split lives right after a partial breakup, and it completely destroyed me. A woman who I thought would birth my first child and share many more memories with me suddenly became a stranger and at the time an enemy to me. In the moment, none of our heart felt moments felt like anything. I legitimately remember crying begging God or somebody above to erase any thought I had of her, because for that time then and to this day I have thoughts of her that used to send chills up my spine and give me goosebumps. My heart would drop thinking of the fact she was moving on completely care-free while I was stutter stepping around my life while also having her in the back of my brain at most times. It genuinely upset me how much time and effort I thought about her and how or what I could have done differently to make our lives work together. We were very different people with very different upbringings, but when we made it work it was beautiful. I have never fully forgiven myself for letting her slip away and I think I will forever hold some space for her. After watching this film, it has completely shifted my perspective on the memories we share. I think a very important lesson in this movie to save is that relationships will be extremely ugly, and extremely breath-taking. As humans I feel we like to cling on to negativity, no matter what the ratio is. One awful moment can completely erase 1000 thoughtful acts, and that’s completely fair. There’s no measuring disrespect or hurt, if something hurts you to the point of leaving even after reconsidering, leave. And so what I will take with me from this film is pushing through the ugly is worth it, what’s worth having will take forgiveness, not all great things have great endings, memories are worth keeping even the bad ones, and that we can love the right person at the wrong time. I genuinely wanna thank Jim Carrey and Kate Winslet for their amazing performances, if I could give them both a handshake right now I would, but the best I can do is a little more than lengthy reddit post off of a couple drinks. Amazing film that I rented on youtube (i have never rented a film on youtube before), cannot recommend anymore and would love to converse over the film or any topics it touched on💕 much love
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