Apologies for the context, but you may be very interested, and I believe it’s important to get some accurate recommendations:
I (23F) have been with my boyfriend for 3-4 years (3 officially, seeing eachother for 4). We met during college. Our relationship feels unique in that we have never been codependent, always engaged in our individual lives, and we were truly just best friends to one another. We never had to think about accepting eachother for who we were, and were never asked to change. We broke up simply because he’s pursuing graduate school in new york and I’m going home to apply to grad schools abroad. While we are extremely compatible, we’ve never had the intense passion of something like a first love since we both had intense young loves and found peace in taking a break from that. We were never able to find that super intense spark in eachother, even after 4 years. Those who know us are perplexed by our relationship because they don’t understand how we could be together so long and not be “obsessed” with eachother of feel super “in love”, whatever that means. I wonder if this is actually the love that is long lasting or something that becomes all too comfortable. We agreed not to do long distance, to give eachother the best chance at living life to the fullest. Given how mature our breakup was, my world is not crashing down but instead being confronted with what it means to start making my first decisions as an adult, with free will which may come with regret that is all my own doing.. It was a good first step in learning that there is no map, I’m making my own and it’s simply a decision we made, not wrong or right. I’m looking for movies that will help me understand our decision, and what love even IS if it’s not that passionate feeling that may be resigned to “young love”. We had a calm, non dramatic love, and maybe that’s the true love they talk about after all? Have you experienced a love like this and what do you think about it? Anyways, any movie recs will be appreciated
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